So you and bae broke up… **inserts Kanye Shrug.** Everybody processes differently. Personally, you might see a few salty statuses from me, his pictures will suddenly be deleted from social media, he will be blocked from every social media site as well as from calling or texting me and everything I own of his will more than likely end up in the trash.. and I might even slice some tires, depending on how I’m feeling. It is what it is, you know?
But at the end of the day.. it happened and it’s probably nothing we can do about it. We just have to find it in ourselves and figure out how to move on. I’ve contemplated over a few days about what I think are the best tips and tricks to get through your breakup and I think I’ve got the things I find to be most important. Now, this list isn’t perfect and its not the end all be all, but I think it serves as a nice starting point.
Wondering where you should start? Well, right below you’ll see my first step:
Justttttt kidding…
1.Process what happened and work through it: What we want to do is make sure that history doesn’t repeat itself. We can’t prevent history from repeating itself if we don’t analyze how or why in particular certain events occurred. Once you’ve honestly evaluated what led to the end of your relationship, then make an effort to change yourself, for the better or for any future relationship that you may have. I’d also like to take it a step further and say to consider speaking to a professional about any unresolved issues you may have with your relationship. Yes it sounds corny, but I find that having someone to listen to my problems, without me having to listen to theirs, is very therapeutic. You also get to hear a different prospective on your situation that your friends may not have given you. The best part is that most companies have an Employment Assistance Program that will cover the cost of the therapy sessions for you. It’s one of those ‘Use it or Lose it’ programs, so why not?
2. Invest more time in your friendships: I could just be speaking for myself here, but I’ve noticed that balancing multiple friendships (especially when you have 3-4 friends that aren’t friends with each other) can be difficult! It’s difficult when I’m not in a relationship, so it becomes that much more difficult when I’m in a relationship. Besides, nothing is better than hanging with friends after a break up because they love you!
3. TRAVEL: *see above photo* Traveling is the best way to get out of a funk for me. You meet new people, drink, dress your best and spend time with your friends. A little Retail therapy normally happens too. I’m not saying its a great opportunity to make your ex feel like you’ve moved on.. but *shrugs* post them pictures, girl.
4. REVENGE BODY: Make him miss you and make everyone else, want you! I mean, really go hard in the gym and get your eating back right. I know everyone talks about ‘relationship weight.’ I think this comes from being bae’d up and date nights. Lets make sure to get those eating habits back on track and returning to the gym. Not getting any on a regular any more? The gym is a great fix. Thinking about doing something you shouldn’t be doing? Go to the gym instead! Bored on a week day that you guys would normally be together? WORK OUT!! I promise, you will never regret it.
5. Build your team: You know what they say.. the best way to get over one man is to get under…. ha, just kidding.. KINDA.
Once you’ve processed through everything that’s happened and you’re ready. Start dating again. I’m an advocate of dating multiple people. Dating doesn’t mean sleeping with, or making out. It doesn’t mean you have to do everything Nola Darling does.. obviously she has a few issues.
It means hanging out with someone, getting to know them better. This will help you determine what you like and what you don’t like. Also, dating multiple people should help you avoid those ‘situationships’ a lot of us young people keep finding ourselves in. It didn’t work out so great for Issa… but hey, it could work for you!
At the end of the day, I think the moral of the story here is to find your happy place. I mean, break ups are hard. I’ve had relationships end and it literally feels like my future has been snatched away from me sometimes. I think that post break ups are great for finding yourself, realizing what makes you happy and doing exactly that. Its a time for you to put you first. So don’t forget, love yourself girl.. or no body will.. but also.. live your best life. You only get one to live!
What do you guys think? Anything else you guys would say is essential to living your best single life? Please don’t forget, LIKE, SHARE, COMMENT and SUBSCRIBE! I can’t wait to hear your suggestions.
astoldbymickb 
Great job
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